Recommendations for creating your life of choice in 2011

At this time of year, it is very easy to focus on what didn’t work this year, rather than the things that did work! Particularly when the market is tight and we try different things as well as our usual things and not everything has immediate results!

Sometimes we seem to have so little to show for all the work we have done, the networking events we have attended, the new friends we have made and of course those wonderful “old” friends that we are still connected to and at times neglect. Yet networking is often like planting a garden of seeds, some sprout faster than others, just like friendships and business opportunities. Some days you get connected to a third-party, who has an instant need for your services. Other days, you follow-up, keep in touch, email, blog, connect and just seem to hit brick walls. Never fear  – a new year is here.

My strategy when I seem to hit more than my fair share of brick walls in any one month is to take a day or morning off and focus on ME – not my business. Here’s a list I work through on one of those ME days:

1. What things really make me happy – no matter how simple they are. Make a minimum list of 100 and resolve to do at least 3 of these things each day for the next 21 days.

2. Describe what your life of choice looks like – if it is not quite what you are doing now. Be as explicit as possible – paint that picture in your mind and turn those pictures into words on the page. Then make a list of how you will know when we have created that life of choice. Sometimes when we are busy/busy – we forget why we are doing what we are doing and what the end game plan really is!

3. Diarise regular ME days – don’t wait until you are in overload to put your first. Mark those dates now – before you need them.

4. Commit to watching your language – replace “I have to” with “I choose to”.

5. Realise that it’s okay to make a mistake, as long as you learn from your mistakes.

6. Plan to introduce a daily habit of acknowledging your WIN for the day – what was your win for the day? – no matter how insignificant it may seem. My win for today – was seeing an amazing full rainbow over the horizon. Had I not gone for the early morning walk, I would have missed it totally. But what a brilliant way to start the day – and it was only 6.30 a.m! Nature is full of amazing sights, when we slow down enough to observe them.

It’s got to be a good day when you have had your WIN by 6.30 a.m.

7.  Practise saying NO without feeling guilty. I have a note on my calendar – say no nicely!  It’s hard sometimes to stick to that one – but long-term, it’s one way of clearing clutter and over-commitment in our lives.

8. How much is enough for the next 12 months? It’s great to reflect on the increase in overheads that is often connected to the increase in income. Sometimes the profit is much greater from doing less than doing more – again something to reflect on and discuss with your accountant before you over commit for the next 12 months.

9. Is there a current situation in your life, that would not be acceptable to your son or daughter, but it’s okay for you?

Why is that? and more importantly what example are you setting for your children by accepting poor behaviour?

10. And your final question for your ME session – if this is as good as it gets, is this good enough?

Sometimes these ME sessions make you squirm, feel uneasy and uncomfortable. That’s all part of the process – hang in there – you will feel better. You see this morning, before I saw the brilliant full rainbow, I had already walked through about 5 minutes of rain. And I was tossing up, will I turn back? will I keep going? Finally, I decided, Robyn it’s only water, it won’t kill you, just keep walking – a bit of rain never hurt anyone.

Within 2 minutes the rain had stopped and the rainbow appeared.  I got the message.

And just like the old Hawaiian proverb – no rain, no rainbow, tough times do pass. And they make our networks and our connections stronger – not to mention the better person we become as we find solutions to our challenges.

Wishing you lots of rainbows in the 2011!

PS And when its cloudy, take your umbrella – just in case.

 

 

One Response to “Recommendations for creating your life of choice in 2011”

  1. Recommendations for creating your life of choice in 2011 (via Robynhenderson101's Blog) « Community Leadership Network Says:

    […] Recommendations for creating your life of choice in 2011 (via Robynhenderson101's Blog) Posted on December 29, 2010 by Community Leaders Network At this time of year, it is very easy to focus on what didn't work this year, rather than the things that did work! Particularly when the market is tight and we try different things as well as our usual things and not everything has immediate results! Sometimes we seem to have so little to show for all the work we have done, the networking events we have attended, the new friends we have made and of course those wonderful "old" friends that we ar … Read More […]

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out /  Change )

Google photo

You are commenting using your Google account. Log Out /  Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out /  Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out /  Change )

Connecting to %s


%d bloggers like this: